We’re Reconciling! Now What?

If you’re wondering what your Reconciling Ministry can do to further show your love and affirmation of LGBTQ+ people, click below for a brief list of next steps you can take together.

We're Reconciling! Now What?

Say More is a resource meant to support you and your community as you engage in thoughtful reflection and conversation around LGBTQ+ inclusion. We hope to empower you to share your story with others to further the causes of inclusion and justice both within The United Methodist Church and your own local context.

Say More is for communities and congregations who want to begin or continue facilitating conversation around LGBTQ+ inclusion. Whether this is your first time, or one opportunity among hundreds, we all benefit when we allow the stories of others to touch us deeply while also sharing our own reflection, testimony, and witness.

The foundation of Say More was developed by Rev. Dr. Tiffany Steinwert.

Participant Workbook

Facilitator Guide

A good toolkit contains a variety of tools that will help you accomplish your task. It may not contain every tool you will need to finish the job, but it contains the basics to get you started. That’s the intention of this Parent Support Group Toolkit. We believe this will help you develop and lead a gathering of the loved ones of queer and trans people: parents, grandparents, siblings, and more.

This Toolkit contains five track options and additional resources to help you get started. Each track represents a different way to engage your group. You can follow the tracks exactly as they’re outlined, or you can mix and match the different formats to fit your group’s desires.

For example: if the group really loves guest speakers, you can choose the Discussion Track. If your group likes to watch a video and then have discussion, the Media Track may be best. This Toolkit is intended to assist you in evaluating the logistics of meetings. There are also tools to help you discern healthy boundaries and parameters of confidentiality.

We hope this Toolkit companions you and your fellow families. Thank you for your ministries of affirmation and community-building! The time and love you pour into a parents support group are vital for changing – even saving – LGBTQ+ lives.

Written by LGBTQ+ youth ministers and church leaders and awesome youth advisors, this Toolkit covers major topics a young person might encounter while learning about their sexual and/or gender identity. This is a great resource for any LGBTQ+ teen but especially for those who are new on their journey.

This article/guide might be a good starting place for your congregation to open discussion on ways of understanding and supporting trans people in your church and community. Guided by scripture, this three-part guide, provides an opportunity for a church to evaluate priorities and welcome of all people. 

This book will be useful for teachers, counselors, social workers, nurses, medical technicians, and college professors, as well as parents who want to be supportive of their LGBTQ+ child, but don’t know how. This is not a book about why to be an ally. This is a book about how to be an ally. The goal of The Savvy Ally is to create more confident, active allies who are effective advocates for change. This informative, entertaining, and supportive guidebook will surely jump-start even the most tentative ally. 

Q Christian has designed and edited their latest Relational Guide for Allies with the purpose of educating, equipping, and empowering aspiring LGBTQ+ allies to be advocates on behalf of the community. Featuring Amy Hayes, this thorough resource offers theological, spiritual, and relational wisdom and advice from someone who has navigated this journey.

Educating oneself communicates a desire to understand, connect, and better be an ally. This shorter list of terms might be a good place to review important terms and language.

Churches in America are experiencing an unprecedented fracturing due to their belief and attitude toward the LGBTQ community. Armed with only six passages in the Bible–often known as the clobber passages–the traditional Christian position has been one that stands against the full inclusion of our LGBTQ brothers and sisters.