People & Pronouns: Language That Sees Us

A dynamic guide for individuals, small groups, and congregations

Language shapes belonging.

People & Pronouns: Language That Sees Us is a theologically grounded, practical resource designed to help churches move from uncertainty to faithful, embodied practice around gender-inclusive language.

Rooted in scripture and Wesleyan theology, this guide explores why pronouns matter in Christian community, how to use them with clarity and care, and how church leaders can model practices that reflect God’s justice, hospitality, and expansive love.

More than a grammar lesson, this resource invites congregations into deeper discipleship — where honoring names and pronouns becomes an act of spiritual integrity and communal transformation.

Ideal for:
• Church leaders and ministry teams
• Small groups and Sunday school classes
• Justice teams and discernment groups
• Individuals seeking deeper theological grounding

Format: 30-page downloadable PDF
Includes reflection questions, leadership guidance, real-life scenarios, and actionable next steps.

“Transgender people have unique gifts for ministry. Distinctive experiences of deep introspection equip gender-diverse people to serve as caregivers. Social position aligns transgender people on the margins from which scripture is written. Gender transition embodies transformation that is the aim of religious practices. This book explores opportunities to preach, lead, provide care, work for justice, and have a social media presence as a transgender person. This book has lessons that apply to any person seeking to operate from their authentic self and unique gifts.”

You can learn more & get Dr. Joelle Henneman’s book here.
Find her on Substack and TikTok @transpreacher.

About the Author

Dr. Joelle Henneman (she/her/hers) serves as the Senior Pastor of the United Methodist Church for All People. Her passion for ministry comes in widening the circle of God’s love to include all people. After a 20 year career in the Air Force, Joelle attended Brite Divinity School and served as a pastor in the Central Texas Conference. After graduation, she served as associate pastor of Central United Methodist Church in Albuquerque, New Mexico and founded Community of Hope–an outdoor worshiping community of housed and homeless people. Joelle moved to Columbus in 2015 in order to live in to a second calling of ministry with the poor. Initially, she served as Director of the Healthy Eating and Living program at Community Development for All People; and, has served on the pastoral staff since 2018. The United Methodist Church for All People grew out of the message of unconditional love and is an intentionally cross-class and multi-racial church. The church affirms that people of all ages, all races, all classes, all genders, all sexual orientations, and all abilities are loved by God just they way they are and God is not finished with any of us yet,

Justice Champion

Dr. Joelle serve as a leader of Faith in Public Life’s Interfaith Justice Table’s, the Ohio Progressive Faith Coalition, board member of the Charitable Pharmacy of Central Ohio, active leader in LoveBoldly, TransOhio, Trans Allies of Ohio, the Black Queer Intersectional Collective and is the co-chair of the West Ohio Conference of the United Methodist Church’s Just Mission team.

Engaging Writer

Dr. Joelle is a published author who has written on a wide range of subjects from gender issues to military history to distance running. She served as an Air Force historian who received recognition eight times with the Excellence in History Programs Award and multiple Historical Publication Awards. As the United Methodist Student of the Year at Brite Divinity School she published two chapters in the book, “InstitutionalChange in Theological Education: A History of Brite Divinity School.” She has written hundreds of newspaper articles and is the author of this blog as well as Looked with Compassion and Perseverance Runner. She recently published the book, “TRANSitions-Queering Faith Leadership” and received the Marcella Althaus-Reid from Pacific School of Religion.

Dynamic Speaker

An in-demand speaker, Dr. Joelle has engaged thousands of people with hundreds of sermons, as a historian she spoke around the world from the Duxford Aviation Museum in England to an appearance on the History Channel’s Modern Marvels. As a social justice warrior, she speaks at rallies and campaigns on a wide range of issues including homelessness, race, immigration, and LGBTQ+ issues.

This study resource is designed to help your United Methodist church or community become more trans-inclusive. Whether or not your group is Reconciling, this resource will equip you to better live into a future of greater love and affirmation.

It will cover some basic truths about transgender people. These sessions will ask you to engage in reflection and discussion guided by biblical scriptures, and to be better equipped to support transgender folks in your community.


What is it?

The reflection guide was designed to help communities and congregations better understand and respond to the decisions of the 2024 General Conference of The United Methodist Church.

What’s inside?

The Next Faithful Steps includes guides for four holistic, discussion-based sessions. Each lesson guide includes insightful summaries of General Conference work and results, as well as meaningful discussion prompts, prayer, scripture, reflection, discussion questions, and suggestions for continued engagement.

How do I get it?

For your whole small group or church, The Nexts Faithful Steps is $20 and you can get it here. Your purchase helps Reconciling Ministries Network to keep equipping our denomination, from individuals to institutions, to keep moving forward toward justice and affirmation for all of God’s children.

If your community is interested in this product but cost is a barrier, please reach out to us at admin (at) rmnetwork.org.

Thank you!

This is intended to be inserted into an existing order of worship. Please note that this is not a Baptism service; it is important to make sure that the presider does not treat it as a Baptism in practice.

Liturgy Arranged by Daniel Elliott Levine

This is intended to be a stand-alone service. From the Scripture readings through the Greeting could be utilized in a regular worship service in the same way as Baptism/Confirmation/Affirmation of Baptism liturgies*

Please note that this is not a Baptism service; it is important to make sure that the presider does not treat it as a Baptism in practice.

Liturgy Arranged by Daniel Elliott Levine

Say More is a resource meant to support you and your community as you engage in thoughtful reflection and conversation around LGBTQ+ inclusion. We hope to empower you to share your story with others to further the causes of inclusion and justice both within The United Methodist Church and your own local context.

Say More is for communities and congregations who want to begin or continue facilitating conversation around LGBTQ+ inclusion. Whether this is your first time, or one opportunity among hundreds, we all benefit when we allow the stories of others to touch us deeply while also sharing our own reflection, testimony, and witness.

The foundation of Say More was developed by Rev. Dr. Tiffany Steinwert.

Participant Workbook

Facilitator Guide

$20.00

A good toolkit contains a variety of tools that will help you accomplish your task. It may not contain every tool you will need to finish the job, but it contains the basics to get you started. That’s the intention of this Parent Support Group Toolkit. We believe this will help you develop and lead a gathering of the loved ones of queer and trans people: parents, grandparents, siblings, and more.

What’s included:

  • 5 track options for learning about your LGBTQ+ loved ones, each representing a different way to engage your group based on interest
  • Meeting logistics and planning guide
  • Sample group rules and parameters of confidentiality

We hope this Toolkit companions you and your fellow families. Thank you for your ministries of affirmation and community-building! The time and love you pour into a parents support group are vital for changing – even saving – LGBTQ+ lives.

Written by LGBTQ+ youth ministers and church leaders and awesome youth advisors, this Toolkit covers major topics a young person might encounter while learning about their sexual and/or gender identity. This is a great resource for any LGBTQ+ teen but especially for those who are new on their journey.

Parents Reconciling Network, an extension ministry of RMN, hosts monthly Virtual Porch sessions for support, learning, and exploring with other parents of LGBTQ+ people. These one-hour sessions include interviews, presentations, and conversations on a variety of topics.