Following the reading of the verdict in the Trayvon Martin

murder trial, I found myself (like many of my peers) outraged and upset.  However, this rage was unlike something I’ve
ever experienced before.  It was deep,
hateful and in fact, frightening.  As my
other half walked around our apartment tending to her normal Saturday evening
routine, I became more enraged as each moment passed. Finally I’d had enough.

I shut down my Twitter app. I exited out of Facebook.  I stopped replaying news clips and I called
Bobbie into the living room.

The conversation that followed was probably the most
poignant of our four-year relationship.

“I need to talk to you,” I said. “…but before I begin, I
need you to know that I love you – that I have always loved you and always

She looked perplexed and scared, but responded with a shaky
“i love you too.”

As I continued, the expression on her face became more

“I love you, but I want you to know that right now….right
now, I hate you,” I said.

She stared blankly.

“I hate you, because you’re white and I’m black. And I’m
mad. And I’m mad at you, because you don’t and won’t understand why I’m so
mad.” – I told her with tears rushing down my face.

She replied, “I understand. You’re mad because the guy
killed the black boy and walked free.”

“NO!” I yelled. And then I thought about it.

“Well, yes, I am mad because of that, but I’m pissed even
more so, because if the colors were reversed and the races were opposite,
George Zimmerman would be going to jail.
People always say ‘they don’t see colors.’ In fact I always say that,
but the truth is – colors, stereotypes, prejudice – all of that shit, it
exists, it’s real and now it’s right in our faces and I’m pissed. Part of me
wants to go out and shoot all the white people I see, burn stuff down and the
other part of me says that’s never the answer.
All of me is upset that it’s possible for me to even feel this way.  But I’m pissed. I’m angry. I’m sad.  People always talk about change
happening.  We are 150 years past the
Civil War, 50 years since the Civil Rights movement and prejudice is still an
issue.  Where is the change? Why haven’t
people changed? What do we do when our legal system and justice fails us? What
do we do when the system we put into place to protect us doesn’t?!”

I ranted and ranted and Bobbie sat and listened. She tried
to interject, but after a few failed attempts to calm me, she just

When I finally paused to catch my breath, I was mad at
myself for being so hateful, but also being so naive.  Until tonight, it had never crossed my mind
that George Zimmerman would not be found guilty.  In my mind, it seemed so… and white.

Boy walks home unarmed.

Guy gets out of car with gun, follows/chases boy and shoots

Boy dies. Guy lives.

No matter how I replay that scenario in my mind, it always
ends up with the same verdict.

And I still don’t understand.

Growing up, I always had more white friends than black
friends.  I hated being black, not
because of the color of my skin, but because of the kids who made fun of my
idiosyncrasies they deemed not “black enough.”
As I’ve matured as an adult, I’ve learned to not only love and fully
embrace my heritage and history, but also the good (and bad) that comes along
with that embrace.  More importantly,
I’ve learned to give a silent  (sometimes
audible) “f**k you” to anyone who questions my “blackness” or anything of the

And yet, despite my maturity and growth, I wasn’t prepared
for the rage that ensued within me tonight.

When my rant was done, I asked Bobbie to leave me alone, but
she sat and after what seemed like hours of her silence, spoke.

“I’m not going to sit here and say I know what it’s like to
be a black kid, because I don’t. I won’t sit here and say I know how it feels
to be judged by the color of my skin. I don’t. I don’t know the answer to your
question. I don’t know how to change our country’s justice system. However,
what I do know is that, right now, you may hate me for being white, but always
– you love me for being me. And when you look at me, you don’t see the color of
my skin; you see me, your other half.
Your skin color does not define you and mine does not me. When people
see us together, they see our love for each other. And that love shows the change
and progress for which you’re seeking.
And hopefully, that change has a ripple effect, so others, like the guy
in Florida and wherever there is hate, change.
So right now, all we can do is love.”

I’m still mad.

I’m still confused.

I’m still upset.

And that’s okay.

But right now – right now, I’m so grateful to be able to
look in the face of prejudice and hate and just see love.

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